How do I choose who I match with and who I see?

The choice is yours as to whether you want to date women, men, or everyone.  
As a new user, at the time of registration,  you are asked who you're interested in connecting with. 
If you are already a member and would like to modify your choices at any time, by clicking on Search Filter.

Please your profile visibility changes as well based on which gender you select as your interest.